Writing itself is solitary. Even if we’re working in an office and surrounded by people, we typically tuck ourselves away, apply our headphones and scurry into our documents with the enthusiasm of a meerkat digging a new downstairs.
Let the others collaborate; I have word magic to conjure.
It’s not that we dislike people (generally speaking). It’s that writing happens in our head. But that creates a problem.
Writing is solitary, but humans are social (even introverted ones like me; don’t tell). We fill our creative wells in countless ways, but one of those needs to be socializing despite the inherently solitary nature of our work.
Socializing keeps us:
- in touch with other perspectives
- connected with other ideas
- up-to-date with trends and techniques
It’s important, but it’s counter to what we do. So, what do we do? Continue reading
Master has given Ducky a sock.
Rather than wait for a specific date to roll around, I’ve found that just getting started on making a change when the inspiration hits is more effective and longer lasting. I’ve made them before, but they didn’t stick; as usual.
This year however, I’m being laid off.
Why is this happening?
Simple. The company is reorganizing. My position, and the positions of everyone else on my team here in Seattle, are being moved to the company’s headquarters on the other side of the country.
So, yeah…change is being forced upon me.
Self-care is all the rage these days. And there’s no shortage of tips and tricks about super-awesome strategies for creating a super-awesome you and keeping your new super-awesome you running like new. And those are all grand ideas.
What I sometimes struggle with is that much of it either won’t work for me or isn’t feasible right that moment. Let’s face it, sometimes you need to feel better now. Like right now.
Go for a walk and reconnect with nature? I live in Seattle. The weather doesn’t always invite you outside. Go to the spa? Yeah, I’ll just tell my boss that I’m leaving work in the middle of the day for a massage. He’s awesome, truly, but no. Just, no.
So, I’ve come up with my own list of instant self-care tips for those of us who need immediate assistance.
Happiness is when your boss’s boss’s boss asks you what inspires you—and you have no answer.
I experienced this joy a couple of weeks ago. It went like this…
Head Guy: “So what inspires you?”
What I thought: Oh crap. Why don’t I know? I should know. Why is he so bald? Why am I thinking about that? I should say something smart. Oh God, what if I blurt out something about his bald head? I need to say something. Just not about his head. Not the head!”
What I said: “New experiences.”
Yay! I side-stepped all head remarks!
Head Guy: “Huh.”
For two weeks, I was stuck for an answer. So I cruised the Internet to find out what inspires other people.
What I discovered did not make me feel better about myself.
Our doubts are traitors,
and make us lose the good we oft might win,
by fearing to attempt.
― William Shakespeare, Measure for Measure
Let’s see your war face!
Sometimes it takes a verbal sucker punch to light a fire under your butt.
It sounds counter intuitive, but a few weeks ago I got socked right where it counts and can assure you, an emotional black eye can (eventually) have a more positive, longer-lasting impact than a quick pat on the back and “you can do this.”
Several weeks ago, I was meeting some new people, including a budding young graphic artist wants to go into multimedia. When the conversation turned to what it takes to be a successful creative professional, the question of whether or not it’s worth doing came up.
My companion at this get-together meant to say “Hey, yeah it’s tough but Erica’s really good at it.” Instead, out came, “Oh yeah, Erica’s a writer and she gets laid off a lot.”
“She gets laid off a lot”? Continue reading